EFT Emotional Freedom Techniques Article
Overcoming Social Anxiety With EFT
by Silvia Hartmann
SOCIAL ANXIETY, SOCIAL PHOBIA
OVERCOMING SOCIAL ANXIETY & SOCIAL PHOBIA IN ADULTS & CHILDREN WITH EFT
EMOTIONAL FREEDOM TECHNIQUES.
There was a time when people were allowed to have crooked teeth and still could
get a job and a wife. There was also a time when children were allowed to be shy
and withdrawn and it was ok.
Now, that’s no longer so.
With ever-increasing pressure to be perfect as defined by the anorexic fashion
model conspiracy and the He-Man cults, one has to be “popular”.
Inhibited, shy, quiet, thoughtful, introverted is looked upon as a disease just
as much as being overweight, having unruly hair, or being on the skinny side and
it needs to be fixed.
So now, we have – and a drumroll please! – for the first time in the history of
humankind, the concept of social phobia, social anxiety, interaction terror, or
even, God help us all, social phobia anxiety disorder.
The problem is with shy people, when you push them into being more “outgoing”
and less reserved, they tend to get worse and worse as a direct result. Most of
them, if left alone, would indeed grow out of it and manage perfectly well as
billions of ancestors did, become fine, happy and fulfilled members of society
in their own rights.
Parents more than ever are absolutely terrified that their children should be
less than perfect and now, it’s not the morals or behaviour they are being
judged by but indeed, what they look like and how “popular” they are at school
or at work.
As the saying goes, “If there’s someone who wants to buy it, I’ll sell it” and
so of course, we have now also a whole market industry growing up around the
ideas of social phobias and social anxiety disorders.
Social Anxiety & Social Phobia Causes Real Suffering
Now, being afraid of people is indeed a most heartbreaking
problem and it is always rooted in negative experiences of one kind or the
other, decisions that were made at some point or the other about ones self worth
and abilities to protect oneself – there is no doubt about that.
There is further no doubt about the fact that we need to do something about it
and especially, when children are being afflicted by the every growing pressure
to be perfect, judged by their peers to be socially inadequate and brutally
tormented and bullied. But also for adults who may suffer from any type of
social anxiety and including commitment phobia, much relief can be experienced
by the application of Energy Therapies, such as EFT and EmoTrance.
A Non Cognitive Behavior Based Treatment For Social Anxiety & Social Phobia in
Children & Adults
Energy Therapies and including EFT & EmoTrance do not seek to
change the behaviour that results from the fear of a social phobia from the
outside in, but rather treats the tremendous fear and anxiety that arises at the
very thought of having to interact and possibly experience even more pain and
anxiety in a social situation directly from the inside.
Energy Therapies (also sometimes known as Energy Psychology) recognises that the
emotions of fear and anxiety, terror and panic are nothing but the symptoms of
an injury an individual has sustained at some point in their neurology (energy
system). The reflex responses of fear, panic and terror in social situations
arise from the equivalent of the pain someone would feel if an open, sore wound
was being pushed against. This is not a matter of willpower or learning to “take
the pain” but truly, a question of healing these underlying wounds.
So far, only Energy Therapies (Energy Psychology) has been able
to do this reliably, time and time again. There is no medication for social
phobia and social anxiety needed here – this is true healing, real restoration,
and then the behaviours follow suit naturally and as a direct result of the
fear, anxiety and terror having been entirely relieved.
Triple Treatment For Children With Social Anxiety or Social Phobia Disorders
There are three version of Energy Therapies such as EFT and
EmoTrance, all of which are highly relevant and contribute in their own way to
healing (curing) social anxiety disorders.
1. The first is that an individual and even a young child suffering from
withdrawal, nervousness, shyness or the higher degrees of the social anxiety
disorders can treat themselves at any time they find their anxiety beginning to
2. The second is that another (a parent or a therapist, or a
teacher who understands Energy Psychology & Social Anxiety Disorders) can treat
the child if the child is too distressed or needs the help, care, attention and
guidance of an adult at this time;
3. The third is that another (usually the parent) can treat the
child by proxy. This means that if the child is unwilling or unable to take part
in the treatment, the parent can still perform the treatment in a shamanic style
quantum healing intervention which is highly successful.
Also, whenever children are being treated for social anxiety related problems,
to treat the parents as well or to offer the parents of children with social
anxiety problems a form of treatment that will help with their own negative
emotions of fear for the child’s welfare, feeling inadequate or helpless, being
overwhelmed and sometimes also angry and sad, stressed out, tired out and
It is well known that when the parents relax and take a more cheerful attitude,
it becomes a great deal easier for children with social phobias to relax as well
and make progress faster, finding a center of strength and support in their
parents which will help them with their self esteem and greatly reduce anxiety
in social situations, even when the parents are not present.
It is highly recommended for the parents of children with social phobias, school
phobias, social anxiety and similar disorders to consult with an Energy
Therapies specialist. This is very cost effective and fast in comparison to all
other available treatments; changes will become apparent within the first
session and also, Energy Therapies practitioners versed in EFT and EmoTrance,
for example, charge ordinarily considerably less than standard psychotherapists.
EmoTrance is particularly effective with children and people who have problems
speaking their mind or finding the right words during a treatment session.
EmoTrance Practitioners can be found at
A list of qualified practitioners around the world can be found at
For adults seeking to overcome social phobias, social anxiety and including
commitment phobia, fear of intimacy, fear of relationships and the like, a good
step is to start with a free self help protocol which is available from
Both EFT & EmoTrance can be used “in the field”, i.e. in the situations
themselves which cause the social phobia or anxiety to crest; this aspect alone
makes these two forms of the new Energy Psychology treatments of unprecedented
value and help to anyone suffering from these debilitating fears and terrors.
Overcoming Social Anxiety & Social Phobia In Adults & Children
Silvia Hartmann, PhD
Author, Adventures In EFT & Advanced Patterns Of
© Silvia Hartmann 2003