By Silvia Hartmann
Try this superb healing pattern for self &
others - make the gift of healing, intention, energy & imagination!
How To Give The Gift - Tips
On How To Give The Gift -
A Gift For You - The Mirror Gift -
Gifts For Strangers -
Gifts For Animals -
A Gift For The World -
Feedback About The Gift -
Energy & Metaphor
Welcome to The Gift – a simple pattern that
is both ancient as well as
modern, with a thousand and one uses, that can make the world a different
for you, for the people you love, for the people you don’t love, and for
who you haven’t even met yet.
It may be that the act of giving The Gift
can make changes at a far wider
level too; as more and more minds become involved in this wonderful
might well have the opportunity to permanently influence matters on a
plane of reality.
Having worked professionally with Energy
Therapies for many years, I am very
aware that we receive far more information and insight about the nature of
reality around us than we could consciously ever understand, or evaluate,
even respond to.
Much of this information is invisible – but
you can still feel it and it
certainly has the power to make you happy and bright, or to bring you
is this information or knowledge that makes the hair on your neck rise on
entering specific buildings; that gives you a strange feeling in the pit
stomach before the telephone has even rang, and that accounts for “gut
responses” to people, situations, proposals and ideas.
When you are engaged with another in any
kind of healing relationship, and
this could be both as a professional therapist or just listening to a
is in trouble and you are trying to help them somehow, both you and I have
power to help in a most profound way – if only we knew how to transfer our
invisible and unspoken understandings into action in some way.
The Gift is the bridge over which your deep
and unspoken understanding and
your knowing about how to help can travel to the other person. It is easy
give, any human alive can do this – children are especially good at it -
you will know that a change has occurred when you have given The Gift.
What exactly happens when you give The Gift
is a mystery. It has been
suggested that you could be making a healing adjustment to the other’s
system, or maybe that you adjust the flow of the meridians through their
or perhaps align a chakra or two in just the right way. I’m not sure what
happens, only that something happens, that it feels wonderful and right,
that it creates positive change both for the giver and for the receiver.
I invite you to try it for yourself. It’s a
simple thing yet endlessly
applicable in its very simplicity and profoundly useful and helpful in
Very simply, we are going to ask for a
metaphorical representation of our
unique contribution to the person to whom we are going to give The Gift.
The name metaphor means a container – and
in the case of The Gift, our
metaphor will “contain” whatever the person needs from us at this precise
moment in time and space. It could be an understanding, a special
love, something that might remove a certain negative energy, something
could unblock something, or provide nourishment in some way, support, an
embrace, a space of silence or perhaps sanctuary or sustenance.
We do not need to consciously understand
what it is that we are giving; and I
am saying “consciously understand” because when you have given The Gift,
will have a different kind of understanding – you will know that it was
right thing to give, because it “feels right”. You might not be able to
explain in words how it was the right thing – but then, metaphor and
are from the unspeakable realms, where what exists is beyond words, and
So, for a moment, consider a person to whom
you might like to give The Gift.
Allow yourself to consider them in all
ways, and beyond the face they may be
wearing, beyond their social status and clothes, beyond their problems and
successes, beyond any love or jealousy you might have for them.
Consider them and then ask yourself this
At this time, at this moment, I ask what
gift I can give to this person.
Relax and let an idea or image bubble up in
your mind. This image, sound,
feeling or idea is the container that will carry your unique gift to the
Here are some examples of gifts that
appeared when the question was asked:
- - a small blue and red bird
- - a multi coloured spiral
- - a small tree in a flower pot
- - a pair of wings
- - a huge field of green grass
- - a luminous white dove
- - a warm blue cloak to wrap around your shoulders
- - the sound of ocean
- - what looked like a beach ball at first and turned out to be
Now, take your time to consider the person
and find a gift for them. Don’t
argue with your choice and accept whatever springs to mind; your conscious
doesn’t know enough to know what would be the perfect gift but your
unconscious mind does, and that is the place from where the metaphor
Most people more than readily can think of
something. Should your mind go
blank, you can either leave the request to keep working on it and send it
as a “flash of insight” at any time within the next few days; or you may
consider which colour might be good for this person, and then just imagine
gift box with a matching ribbon on top in that colour and trust that your
perfect gift will be inside that box.
Now, imagine the person and imagine
offering the gift to them. This part of
the pattern creates the transfer from you to them and represents your
to be of help.
That is all you have to do. From then on,
whatever happens next, will happen
under its own processes as the interaction unfolds and the changes are
Some things you might notice or come across
when you give The Gift are as
Sometimes when you think of the person,
they appear very different to what
they normally look like – they may appear older, younger, may be dressed
differently than in “real life”, or may be expressing emotions through
body postures that you are not normally aware of. This is perfectly normal
it is a sign that you are seeing who they really are.
Often, you might experience strong emotions
yourself when The Gift has come
to your mind. Again, this is in a way the correct reaction to this process
it tells you that it is working. Emotions and energetic states are
linked in a single system.
So far, every person who was offered a gift
received it most gratefully –
some with tears, some with astonishment and gratitude and some with
delight. It is conceivable however that a gift might be rejected. Should
happen, you could ask what they would prefer to have from you instead –
is something that is absolutely unique to you for them, that they cannot
from anyone or anywhere else. If you feel you can fill the request, go
but you also have the right to not fill it if it seems inappropriate or
less than good to you.
Pay attention to your self when sending The
Gift. It is often as profound an
experience to give it as it is to receive it.
It is not necessary to tell people about
the Gift, although with good friends
it adds another dimension to the process and if you can discuss the nature
these gifts, gain tremendous insights into many things.
You can give The Gift just while talking to
someone and without them knowing
anything about it. Briefly focus on a place beyond their physical body,
may be able to imagine an astral copy of the person to whom you will give
gift. When you do this, pay attention to how the other person responds
Gift is given. Some people lose their train of thought, some look over
shoulder; they are aware that something has happened which, indeed, it
also how after a giving of The Gift the nature of the whole interaction
change for the better.
Remember that The Gift represents an
energetic exchange, in spite of the
often seemingly simple or mundane metaphorical object that carries your
intention across. Energetic exchanges are felt not heard or measured with
Geiger counter; pay close attention to your feelings and your emotions
The Gift because that is how you will know that you have done something
The original pattern of The Gift was
developed for healers and therapists who
were suffering from extreme overwhelm when faced with deeply unhappy,
and mentally scarred people who were suffering from a lifetime of neglect,
terrible trauma and lovelesness.
The Gift creates a straightforward method
for their unique healing energies
and intentions to go the right places for that individual, and most
helped them to no longer feel overwhelmed and helpless. The negative
helplessness and conscious overwhelm disappear when you use The Gift to
others, and in so doing, are a gift to you.
Interestingly, sometimes it happens that a
person to whom you have given The
Gift, will offer one in return to you – and I don’t mean people who you
told about having sent them a gift and who will nearly always reciprocate
likewise automatically, but those you imagined offering a gift to.
Needless to say, please receive it in
gratitude. As we have said before, this
is an energetic exchange and energy needs to flow freely both from you to
and from them to you.
You can also give yourself a gift in the
same way as you would to another
This is an interesting exercise on many
levels and it is intrinsically very
different from other people’s gifts as it will be your own energy you are
using instead of a different flavour which comes from another person.
You may consider gifts for “past selves” –
perhaps there was a time in
your life that was very traumatic, or you “used to be a different person”
which usually means, a worse person. To give those parts of yourself gifts
help to re-align them, ease their suffering and to help them grow and
is possible that there are certain “past you’s” that cannot be healed by
anyone other than you yourself.
As it is the case that people pop up in our
lives in order to be a mirror to
us and our own problems, and as it is also the case that my sister-in-law
gives me presents she would liked to have received, you might consider
have given a few gifts to your loved ones, which one of those gifts you
like to have received as well, and give yourself the same one, too.
As my intuition increases, I used to find
it harder and harder to travel on
public transport or be in crowded places, simply because of the general
unhappiness, loneliness and suffering that was emanating from the people
For example, I saw an Indian lady with many
heavy bags at a train station.
Although I helped her carry the bags onto the train, there was so much
and physical suffering around her like a dark grey fog that she hardly
notice me. I gave her a tropical garden, and she took a deep, deep breath
seemed to become alive and aware of her surroundings.
I then went through all the passengers of
the train compartment, one by one
and felt myself getting lighter and more comfortable with each gift given
I received a number of gifts in return also
and left the train full of energy
and brighter than I had been in years.
What I believe is that The Gift is a
stepping stone, a learning process that
will allow us to do this type of work automatically and without us having
even give attention to it once we are fully familiar with its workings.
I would invite you to try it for yourself,
and note what difference it makes
to you and your individual dealings with strangers and passers by.
Animals (wild animals and domesticated
animals) are extremely aware of
energetic shifts of all kinds, and they too can receive The Gift. Further,
feedback to receiving the gift is immediate and clearly visible in their
physiology, their body postures and their subsequent behaviour. Here are a
examples of gifts for animals:
- a gift bow (for a dog which later turned
out to have been “an unwanted
- a foal (for a mare who was highly strung
– as soon as the owner thought
of the foal the mare stopped dead, relaxed right out and stood very
with her head drooping);
- a blue green blanket (for a dog who then
came into the room for “no good
reason” lay down, at full stretch, exactly in the spot the blanket “had
appeared” to the owner).
If you remember, the original gift pattern
was designed to help with
What can be more overwhelming than global
issues such as world pollution,
world hunger, the suffering of all the children, all the animals, global
warming, wars and famines, and so forth?
What causes depression and overwhelm is the
thought “There is nothing I can
With The Gift, there is something you can
do now beside recycling and
donating to charity, and I believe that every one of us who addresses such
issues at the energetic level in this way actually does make a difference.
As The Gift pattern does not require much
meditation, time or effort other
than conscious volition to do it now it is a perfect beginning to start to
our abilities to make changes at the energetic level on global issues too.
What gift will you give to the world today?
To The Children? To Humanity?
Whatever you have to contribute, know that it is uniquely yours to
– no-one else in the world can give this gift the way you do – and that it
will make a difference.
Here are some stories received about using
The Gift in practise. I would very
much like to hear your experience with The Gift, too. Please mail me at
address at the end of this article to contribute.
“A friend came to visit me who is in a very
unhappy relationship. I
listened to her for a long while but began to feel more and more
in the face of her anger and couldn’t think of what to do other than to
go along with it and hope she’d tire of it soon. I remembered The Gift
the newslist, and focussed on what I could be giving her. As soon as I
of it, a white dove appeared before me. It was carrying a long flowy red
in its beak, and fluttered in midair. I stared in awe. After I got over my
surprise, I *gave* it to my friend, mentally released it to her.
stopped talking. The entire mood of the room calmed, and she tied up a few
ends and left, calm and confident.”
“This metaphorical gift
giving solves a huge dilemma I have had weighing on
my heart. I recently spent time with some very old friends and was quite
disturbed by the way they are treating their children, and by their
year old son. These are not people I can confront or help right now, and
kids live across the country from me so I can't establish a relationship
help that way. But I CAN go inside myself everytime
think of it, and send whatever seems appropriate at that moment. It has
wonderful relief to me.”
“I heard that a dear friends father had
died suddenly. I wanted to do/say
something to help but was in a spin, couldn't find the right words, so I
myself down and pictured my friend and his father, immediately I knew that
'gift' was a very special poem about laughter. Later on I was tapping for
friend but it just didn't feel
right, I couldn't find the right thing to
tap on....until your mail arrived.
It was so obvious I couldn't see it. Now I know that the greatest gift
can energetically send at this time is laughter. Thank you for putting
words what I knew but couldn't see.”
“I have been troubled by feeling very
negative – hateful – towards a
certain person recently. When I got the message about the gift, it
me to try it on that person to see if it would make any difference.
a huge black raven sprang to mind. I was worried that it might be
and hesitated, but it looked very beautiful and powerful so I decided to
my unconscious mind and send it anyway. I felt better immediately as I
the raven flying away all purposefully and actually found it hard to get
those feelings of negativity about the person. Later, someone told me
raven on the Shamanic Medicine Wheel is the guardian of in absentia
it's medicine is considered needed to bridge the Void, to reach the
unknown.” I had no idea of that but WOW. What a gift – and just what that
person must have needed. And what I needed to do to regain balance in my
“The gift I gave to a friend I did give to
myself too and quite a few
have happened to me since including: a
change of attitude to food: frequently
I am "energised " by some "energy " which leaps out of me;
feeling at peace and "full " of self-love and kindness. I also I had a
weird experience to find out I share a past life memory with a friend!”
“Today, a friend stopped by. He was
tripping out, exploding with ideas, and
I began to feel overwhelmed with his energy. I thought of The Gift, and a
speckled egg appeared in front of me. It was a lovely greenish bluish
color, with brownish spots. I just stared at it for a moment, sort of
it. Then I released it to him. I was watching his face as I gave him this
He stopped in mid word and just stared at me, and asked me what he'd been
saying. He said, "Something just happened. everything is different."
so I told him about the egg. he teased me about having *egged* him. Then
that the sensation he was experiencing was a sort of encapsulation. about
hour later, he was again escalating his thought process, and my attention
drifted back to the egg. I replayed it in my mind, and as I did so, he
stopped, looked at me, and asked if I'd egged him again. I hadn't meant
laughed about it. Now I can't wait to use this with my kids, and my ex
stops by & begins to attack me. This is truly the simplest thing I've ever
done, and the results are remarkable.”
“I was in this doctor’s office with a
replacement doctor because the
regular one was on holiday. This was a woman of about 50. She spent the
ten minutes apologising to me that she wasn’t the real doctor and kept
me if I wanted to wait until the real doctor was back again. I thought of
Gift and what came to mind was a single red rose. Whilst she was still
apologising, I imagined a ghost shape of me giving the rose to a ghost
her, it took it and said quite loudly in a tearful voice, “No-one has ever
given me one of these before.” At that moment, the real woman stopped
and looked over her shoulder, in the same direction where I was seeing the
shape. She took a deep breath and seemed confused for a bit, then she
me and said, “Well, lets find out how can I help you”.
“The morning after I received The Gift on
the list, I was out walking and
saw a woman shouting and screaming at her dog in the park. For some reason
wondered if I could give a gift to the poor dog and I thought of a big red
ribbon, like a gift bow. I send it to the dog and then went on to say
the woman and stop her somehow. She was very angry at first but calmed
then told me that dog had been “an unwanted gift”. I nearly burst out into
tears on the spot.”
“One of my best and oldest friends is
dying. I lay in bed and couldn’t
sleep for tears although I kept telling myself it was all for the best and
he was going home. I was exhausted and at 3am, I called up an image of my
and began to give him all sorts of gifts, dozens of them, until he smiled
stopped me and gave me a gift instead – it was a big white Indian blanket
symbols painted on it which he wrapped about me. I don’t know what
how but I felt really warm all of a sudden. I stopped crying and went to
Thinking about it now, I think the gift was always about me.”
Working with metaphor to heal, solve
problems, or even just to have fun with
finding out what your imagination and intuition can do for you, is both
the most ancient human endeavours as well as being now at the absolute
edge of mind-body technologies.
This is a vastly under-rated,
underestimated and underexplored domain of
virtually limitless potential that is easy to access and comes naturally
- If you would like to learn more about this
amazing undiscovered country, we
recommend Dr Hartmann’s “Project Sanctuary” which can be found at
How To Give The Gift - Tips
On How To Give The Gift -
A Gift For You - The Mirror Gift -
Gifts For Strangers -
Gifts For Animals -
A Gift For The World -
Feedback About The Gift -
Energy & Metaphor
The Gift (c) Dr S Hartmann 1998 - Please feel free to pass on The Gift.